So the day has finally come. After weeks of searching for the perfect ring, planning the perfect venue, speaking with her parents and (GULP) asking for her father’s permission, you are finally ready to say those 4 simple words.
WHAT AM I DOING? Will You Marry Me? We’ve compiled our list of the 5 things to remember on Proposal Day based on years of experience and the stories of thousands of guys just like you. Enjoy.
Confirm your reservations!
The last thing you need today is someone else you are relying on to not come through. Give a quick call to the restaurant where you made your reservation, and remind them what you are doing tonight. Most restaurants love to help and get involved so don’t be afraid to drop the P word! If you’ve hired a photographer or asked a friend to take some pictures to capture the moment, touch base with them as well.
It is a proven fact that proposing is not a natural function of the common man (well maybe not proven but it should be). How do you overcome that tongue that keeps getting in the way? Practice, Practice, Practice. Start by writing down all the reasons why you want to marry her and remember that this is your time to express your love for her. Be natural and don’t memorize your “script,” just practice so when the time comes, it will flow naturally.
Calm Your Nerves
If you wake up in a cold sweat the day of the proposal, you are not alone. Sharing our feelings and being vulnerable top the list of things that don’t come naturally. Take some time the morning of the proposal to relax and calm your nerves. A workout at the gym or a nice run will work, but even just taking an hour to relax with a cup of coffee can do wonders to get you into the right frame of mind. Remind yourself throughout the day that no one is expecting perfection. It is usually the things that go wrong that make the proposal memorable and fun! If you can’t seem to get a handle on your nerves, just be sure to grab some of that extra strength antiperspirant and apply liberally!
Get Your Props
Props may not be the right word after all; you’re probably not filming a movie. Basically, I’m talking about all the little things you may need to pull this off without a hitch. Do you want to have her favorite flowers on the table, a glass of champagne for the celebration after, or did you want to wear that shirt that she loves so much on you? Make sure these things are ready. Nothing is worse than realizing that you don’t have clean underwear 30 minutes before your date!
This may seem like a no brainer but it must be said! The ring is a symbol of this awesome step in your relationship and really is the centerpiece of this entire night. Make sure you know where you are going to place your ring. Fumbling to find the pocket you put the ring in is an unnecessary source of awkward silence. Know where you put the ring! And as an added bonus, I will throw this in as a freebie…Stick to a pocket, putting the ring in food is so not OK.
The Proposal Day is going to be memorable for both of you so just be yourself and let her know why she is the one. I do have one other “remember to…” Even if you forget all your lines, your props, the reservations and the clean underwear, don’t forget to get down on one knee. The proposal will just flow from there. While I realize it’s not the 1950’s, this is one tradition that is still going strong. She will love this classic and beautiful display of respect for her and this moment.
I hope you find these helpful.
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